Daydream Believer

Juniper feeding our Dexter cow, Babe.

Sometimes I am so far into a dream that I can’t tell that I am dreaming. Does that ever happen to you? Lately I realized that Kristin and I are deep into a dream, so deep that we have to stop ourselves and force lucid dreaming, otherwise we can’t recognize where we are.

The boys, “Ham” and “Bacon.” Seriously, this is what the girls named them.

Sometimes I can’t tell where dreams end and where “reality”, whatever that is, begins. Am I dream walking through the waking world or wake-walking through a dream world? And what difference is there really?

And sometimes, most times perhaps, it is impossible to tell where a dream really begins. Now I am talking about our so-called waking dreams, the intentions or foci of our lives, because our life these days is one such dream. We now have chickens, turkeys, rabbits, sheep, pigs, and cows.

What are we doing and where did this come from? When did each of us first want to be a farmer?

Our sheep, “Cookie”, “And” “Cream”, and their mobile A-frame.

I posed this question to Kristin recently and she said that she has wanted to be a farmer or a rancher since she was a child, living at that time in either New Mexico or eastern Montana. Makes sense. For me, I can’t really remember but it probably goes back several generations to when my Great-Grandfather, Benson LaFever, farmed the rocky hillsides of Delaware County, New York. Someone in our family has to farm and carry on, right?

What I do remember is being in graduate school with Kristin (studying Wildlife Science) and a seed being planted by a local organic farmer (Farmer Brad) and his young family that inspired me greatly, as well as Michael Pollan’s book “The Omnivore’s Dilemma.”

We were in graduate school 15 years ago or so and here we are realizing the dream of “The Old Home Place,” which is what we called our farmstead back then. It doesn’t have a new name yet and that one doesn’t seem to fit anymore, but the dream certainly does.

One of our “bunny tractors” (a mobile bunny hutch) with Juniper looking on.

I hope to provide regular updates and more descriptions of what we are doing. For now, I apologize for not getting the word out sooner about our incursion into farming but then again, we may be too busy these days living the dream (too exhausted more like) to spend time on the computer!

David and Kristin LaFever

Keeping Alive


My youngest daughter and I walk outside, cross our small yard strewn with the detritus of youthful imaginations, and enter the turkey pen through a small gate. I hold her hand, as she steps over the threshold, an unnecessary act at this age but one I love because of the feeling of her small hand in mine. The turkeys are anxious for their food. The tom, with fluffed and fanned feathers, struts around the two hens as they make soft and gentle noises. We feed them and check on their water, something both my daughters enjoy doing. I notice that they are growing rapidly, both the turkeys and the girls, and count backwards from Thanksgiving Day to the present: eight weeks until we eat them (the turkeys not the girls), taking their very bodies into our own. Their deaths keep us alive.

Preservation has long been one of my least favorite words in the English language. To me it reeks of stagnant air and clinging to a time and place that is no longer relevant. The word itself makes me think of time capsules and Preservation Societies and living in the past. Recently, however, I looked up the definition and was surprised by what I found.

Preservation: to keep alive or in existence.

I remember many years ago, when I was the same age as my older daughter is now, walking out to the turkey pen holding my own dad’s hand. The pen was tucked into woods of cherry, maple, and beech, across the wide expanse of our backyard. With a mixture of excitement and fear, I helped my dad slaughter the turkeys and sobbed afterwards. Unable to express myself in other ways, my tears said what I could not – that it is serious business taking another animal’s life.  I didn’t know then how to express these deep emotions and I guess I still don’t, at least not with words. Tears were and probably still are the truest expression of the deep feelings engendered by taking another animal’s life.

We would then take the slaughtered turkeys into our musty mid-1800s basement where my sadness would turn to fascination as it mixed with the unmistakable smell of plucked warm body and wet feathers. We then climbed out of the basement and into the kitchen where my dad taught me about turkey anatomy and the biology of birds. I recall with vividness both how similar and different their digestive system was from ours. I was especially fascinated by the small gizzard filled with stones. Years later doing dissections in a biology class these moments would come flooding back with a clarity that deep experiences like this give. Across all those years my experiences butchering turkeys with my dad made the coldness of a classroom dissection lesson come alive.

I remember another time, as a young idealistic foreigner, walking down a dusty and litter strewn street with my wife in North Africa. We each carried a small turkey by its legs, upside down, feeling strange and very self-conscious. Amidst the dust, flies, diesel fumes and donkey carts, we heard greetings of salam u walekum (“peace be upon you”). The poultry vendors, our friends, shouted offers to kill and butcher the birds for us. “No thank you,” we politely replied, and didn’t know how to explain why we needed to do this ourselves. It wasn’t just because having Thanksgiving was a way to preserve our own culture amidst such foreignness.  More importantly it was because we simply needed to do it ourselves and in so doing to preserve parts of our culture and my own family’s traditions. Deep in the heart of the High Atlas Mountains, we took the lives of these birds in order to keep something else very much alive.

It may seem contradictory but by killing the turkeys myself, I keep alive, so much alive. First, I keep alive the knowledge and understanding, experienced not just conceptualized, of what it takes to eat meat. It’s a bloody business that we mostly separate ourselves from. We seem to not want to think about the chicken breast on our plate as having been a living, breathing animal. With the smoke and mirrors of the industrial process, we distance ourselves from the death it takes to keep us alive by forcing someone else to do it for us and then we wrap the animal and the death in a neat little package.

Second, killing the turkeys reminds me of where I sit in the web of life and helps close the artificial gap between eater and eaten, predator and prey, and acknowledges and honors my relationship with the world; which is utterly co-dependent and beautifully inseparable. Without this relationship, taking animal, plant or mineral into my body, I could not exist, which engenders great humility. This humility is rooted in the knowledge and experience of interdependence, of being so intimately connected with other forms that my very life depends on theirs. Slaughtering the birds, then, serves as a very real reminder of my relationship with the world and forces me to reconsider how I want to relate to the world. Do I want to forget where food comes from or to get my hands dirty and bloody in order to intimately know? Do I want to connect myself with an industrial agriculture system that does not sustain life or do I want to connect with a more resilient and life honoring food system? These are questions that I return to again and again and the slaughtering of our turkeys helps me to answer them, in action and for myself, if for no one else.

Third, by carrying on my dad’s tradition of rearing, slaughtering and butchering turkeys I keep the knowledge alive of how to do it, thereby reminding myself every year of what it takes to put a turkey on a platter. As an adult with children of my own, it is now my responsibility to keep this tradition alive, to preserve it for my daughters’ generation. By this I mean to keep it so alive that my daughters will not only know how to raise their own food and the importance of doing so but will also feel empowered to make it their own. This kind of preservation is not a deferential and mindless act, catering to the past for past’s sake only; it is also forward thinking and rooted in active participation. Preservation includes both these aspects: a backward glance and a forward gaze. For my children, I hope the rearing, slaughtering and eating of our turkeys connects them with past and the future in a present that is alive and vibrant, and one that they can make their own.

As the turkey comes out of the oven, cooked to golden-brown perfection, I think back to all of the time and effort in raising this bird from a vulnerable and fluffy chick to a gangly and awkward poult and onward to the downright beautiful strutting tom that we killed. As mouthwatering smells fill the kitchen, I think about this bird’s life and what it means to me and my family: preserving a tradition, connecting us with so much and keeping us all alive. Just before I begin carving the breast, I say a few words of gratitude for the gift of this bird’s life that it may nourish us all. Past, present and future swirl together in this very moment, in this very act and I am deeply grateful to be here, now, and so very much alive.

Sprung, Well Sort Of

Peach blossoms and the sweetness to come.


Spring here on the west coast in northern California sprung some time ago. The verb to spring isn’t exactly the best descriptor of it in this mild, maritime climate, however. Emerge might be better, like western coltsfoot (a flowering plant in the aster family) and the horsetail which seem to be able to push up through anything including asphalt. Spring here, seems to emerge softly out of the middle of winter or else flow forth, continuous and subtle. Winter and spring merging as one before spring emerges out of it. Pacific chorus frogs are the very definition of this: they started singing with the heavy rains of fall and I can still hear them singing their nightly chorus now months latter.

Having grown up in upstate New York, where seasons are distinct and often sudden,I have been slow to catch on to the minute differences in the seasons here. With a temperature that doesn’t vary much throughout the year and conifer dominated forests that are ever-green, I have to notice subtler details to indicate season. Wind direction, rain fall, the return of salmon, an the angle of daylight all tell me something important about seasons.

Here there is no great profusion of wildflowers (except perhaps out on the coastal dunes where invasive beach grass has not take over) as I remember years ago living in Texas, where the roadsides were a riot of bluebonnet, paintbrush and blanket flower, but still there are flowers here. On a recent hike in old-growth forest, I was delighted to see the subtle, brown and green flowers of the fetid adder’s tongues nearing their end and western trillium, with its triad of showy white blooms, just beginning theirs. Milkmaids, redwood violets and western coltsfoot added their color to the forest floor.

Here at the old homestead, signs of spring abound and have been for a month or more. The elderberries were the first to leaf-out, followed by the red-flowering currant, the gooseberry, blueberries, alder and now the fruit trees are just starting to show signs of waking up. On the animal front, the chicken’s rate of egg laying has picked up from a mid-winter slump, and on nearby farms (where Kristin is working) lambs, kids, and piglets are being born.

The backyard flock – Buff Orpington, Americauna, Silvery-laced Wyandotte, and breeding pair of Muscovy ducks.

At the same time as all these signs of spring, the Aleutian geese are starting to stage here in vast numbers. In the mornings and evenings we hear there high cries and see their long skeins and Vs leaving no trace as they traverse the sky. To me they are the transcendence of season for they are of both winter and spring. Here in this small corner of the world, the Aleutians come here at the very end of winter to stage and fatten up before their long migration north to the islands that are their namesake. Suddenly there are thousands upon thousands of them in and around Humboldt Bay and I wondering when they all came and from where. Their numbers are so vast, that they define this time of year, this season for me more than any other plant or animals. And just as suddenly as they had appeared, one day soon they will all get their mysterious cue from nature and start their northward migration. In their absence, I will stand outside with my eyes gazing skyward and notice unequivocally that spring  is almost gone and that summer is nipping at its heals.

The promise of summer to come – home grown veggies!


~written by David